For friends

If a friend comes out to you

• Be glad they trusted you. “Thanks for telling me — I’ve got you” goes a long way.
• Follow their lead on words, labels, and how much they want to talk.
• Keep it to yourself. Don’t share it with others, even people you both know, unless they say it’s okay.
• Treat them the same. They’re still your friend — keep being normal together.

Everyday ways to have their back

• Use their name and pronouns, and back them up if others don’t.
• Don’t make them the “spokesperson” for all LGBTQ+ people — they’re just your friend.
• Invite them, include them, check in. Belonging beats big speeches.
• If someone’s being cruel, a simple “not cool” or changing the subject helps more than you’d think.

If you’re worried about them

If a friend seems really down, withdrawn, or talks about not wanting to be here, take it seriously. You don’t have to fix it — listen, tell them you care, and help them reach support. You can text or call The Trevor Project together, or tell a trusted adult if they’re in danger. You being there matters more than you know.

Look after yourself too

Supporting a friend through a hard time is a lot. It’s okay to set kind boundaries and lean on your own support so you don’t carry it all alone.